I´m writing this at a café in Stockholm. Realizing that the reason why I can sit here, taking some time to write before I go into the office is thanks to some crucial decisions I´ve made in life. The big decision was to become self-employed instead of employed by an organization. I quit my job because of burn out 2013. I worked in a part-time job after that, but then I made the big leap. There are other challenges in having my own business, but this is such a big win for me it´s so worth it.
The reason why I made the decision to start my own business is that I step by step got in touch with my values and what motivates me. One word that came up so much I just couldn´t ignore it was freedom. Freedom to control my time. Freedom to pick up my kids early some days, work from home, take a morning walk in the woods before putting on my computer and so on. I know I don´t lack self-discipline, which is essential to have when you work for yourself. I also know I didn't become my own to stay in my pajamas all day and watch Netflix. It was more a feeling of wanting to have some space and flexibility in my life. I also had some health problems that made it impossible for me to be in a full-time job.
So how did I make this decision in the first place?
The decision to be my own was a decision that came from my intuition. From my heart. From a deeper place than just a rational thought.
So how can we know then when a decision is the right one?
How do we know when a goal comes from the inside when we might be conditioned to listen a lot to advise from friends, family, and other well-meaning people?
I mean, sometimes that inner voice is kind of hard to hear, don´t you think? And the intuition can sometimes feel like a whisper more than a loud voice, so we got to find some moments of quiet to listen.
Well in my courses we talk a lot about this. Sometimes when we´re about to make a meaningful decision, we might feel a lot of resistance, and also a lot of fear. And that can cause us to think it is not the right thing to do to move forward. That maybe we wouldn´t feel that resistance if it was the right thing to do. But the resistance is so natural if we´re stepping out of our comfort zone and if we´re letting go of something old for something new. I heard someone who actually called it Joyfear.
This weekend I watched some videos with Mel Robbins, and I think she´s got a great way of explaining how you can know when a decision is an inside-out decision.
She says "It either feels like it expands you. Or it feels like it shrinks you".
So what feels like expansion in your life? And what feels like shrinking?
Something to think about in this last part of 2017.
With love, Anna
I´m a mindfulness coach, singer and soulpreneur with a mission to help people live more conscious, authentic, fun and creative lives.
Through Mindful Mojo I give courses and private sessions in mindfulness and personal development.